Many people hate the gym for various reasons. There are to many reasons to list; but whatever the reason its our right to go or not go. Right? No judgement! I say this when it comes to someones weight loss journey.
I don’t hate the gym; but what I do dislike is the bitter people that go and attempt to make others feel bad with their hostel body shaming looks. Now they may have RBF but at the same time it doesn’t cost anything to smile back. I smile at everyone I pass, even if they don’t smile back I keep smiling. I think nothing of it and just keep focusing on my fitness training.
I do consider myself a positive influencer and take progress selfie pictures very often. Pictures are a form of accountability for myself. On this one particular day I had an audience. Never seen this lady before and she stood across from me with her arms crossed as I was taking full body pics for my Instagram. She looked at me up and down shook her head with disgust and puffed through her lips with such disgust again. I didn’t react right away and hurried and finished up my side by side pictures. I was flabbergasted I didn’t know how to react. I actually froze and got nervous. I felt shame like what I was doing was wrong. I looked at her and raised my eyebrows at her like asking her is there something wrong. She continued to stair me down until I went to my locker. In this very brief moment I felt all the ugliness of the world. How could this one strange woman make me feel in such a way? Why did I allow for a stranger to make me feel any other way other than myself?
I don’t know about others but I always see myself overweight no matter how much weight I lost and how fit I look; it is never good enough in my eyes. When I post on Instagram and my followers help me understand there is change and aspire to be just as determined as myself. This is a positive action but you do get those nasty trolls that just love to sabotage with their words cause body shame. Sometimes it feels like there is no way around the negativity and bitterness of others.
So, what do we do? Well I have anxiety and I am not going to lie, I tend to dwell. Not one of my best qualities; I also work on mindfulness and remember that other peoples issues are not my issue. Dwelling sucks but these days I have been able to not over react and remember to breath. The take away I have learned from therapy is that no one is out to get me except myself. So, with that being said I learned to let things go much better these days and move on to the next best thing for the day.
Whether we like it or not there will always have body shamers in our presence. Whether its a friend, stranger or our natural environment. What can we do to not let their actions affect us? Here are some tips:
1. Always smile and be confident
2. Remember your are not the issue they have their own issues they are not addressing
3. Chin up because we only have one life to live and we are entitled to happiness
Body shaming is a form of bullying and harassment if it continues by the same person report them and don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.